You are at the grocery store for your weekly shopping. From one aisle to another, you pick the items as you check them off your list.
You get to the fruits and vegetables section. You check your list then pick some broccoli, spinach, apples…you smell the cookies from the bakery section just next to where you’re standing.
For a minute, you forget what you were to pick next as your mind drifts away. You muster enough concentration and continue shopping but your mind just can’t keep off the idea of getting some cookies.
Ever had such an experience? If you love cookies, the answer is ‘Yes.’
It may not be cookies for you. But there is something you love, even crave despite rarely getting satisfied after having it. This is the thing which seems to stop your mind from working, until when satisfied.
Any time you come across your desire, an argument kicks off in your mind. Do you indulge or not? Deep inside you, you know the right answer. But more often than not, you act contrary to it. Why?
Because desires demand to be satisfied immediately.
There are two principles at work here:
Pleasure principle – this is when your instincts drive you to seek pleasure by satisfying your desires instantly. When this principle is at work in your life, you prioritize the satisfaction of your desires. Usually, this is with complete disregard of the long-term effects.
Reality principle – this is when your mind considers the reality of circumstances as the determining factor as to whether your desires will be satisfied immediately they show up. When this principle is at work in your life, you will most likely reason out the situation before acting to satisfy your desires.
This is how the reality principle would work out in the above shopping situation: You would first check your …read more